Research in the social field has found that “assuming the perspective of the other” is a crucial predictor of relationship satisfaction. People who can “take on the other person’s perspective” may not feel what their partner is feeling, but they can list, describe, and act on their partner’s thoughts. “Taking on the perspective of the other” is closely linked to emotional intelligence, helping you relate to others more successfully overall. The idea of mentally “putting yourself in someone else’s shoes” is usually seen as a way of understanding and caring about another person. In this way, it will allow them to address minor disputes appropriately to prevent them from becoming a danger to the proper functioning of their relationship.

Imagine you are sitting in front of your partner at the dining table. You can see your partner and whatever is behind their seat. Once you do this mind trick, you will know how your partner feels. This is what researchers call “empathic precision.” People who are good at “assuming the perspective of the other” can help maintain a healthy relationship. Try “reading” your partner’s thoughts and how they react to strengthen your relationship. How? Take a break in the conversation for a “perspective check” when you feel that your relationship is “agitated” by your and your partner’s emotional reactions. Your partner will like you more when you are skilled at accepting perspectives.